How do you cope with realizing that 1 day you just have to up & be your OWN family, even if you're a twin?

you will be much happier on your own without your family,sad but true. you have done well with your degree use it to gain your Independence and self respect. you can lead an independent life find a boyfriend work and be happy. this will not be easy but you sound as if you have the will to succeed If the family keep making false accusations send a solicitors letter or at least get advice. try to get counselling to build your confidence and bring back much deserved happiness to your life. we can always choose our friends but not our family's so we are not responsible for their actions, leave them move on.